Feelings of worth can flourish only in an atmosphere where individual differences are appreciated, mistakes are tolerated, communication is open and rules are flexible - the kind of atmosphere that is found in a nurturing family. ~Virginia Satir
I've known only a few people who lived, day in and day out, in this kind of family. More often, the people I have known have experienced some nurturing punctuated by a more or less steady steam of indifference, impatience, capricious demands, contempt and violence. So they carry their wounds forward with them to their friends, lovers and children.
And often, we are mystified wondering why our lives and loves are chaotic and full of conflict. When we are ready to finally fix what is broken, we will go deep enough to repair the damage from long ago. We will learn to become the nurturing person we needed way back when. In the process we will also learn our true worth and teach others how valuable they are today.
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